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De los infiernos a la luz de la aceptación.
Un punto de vista.
Cada uno desde nuestros defectos y virtudes en un camino empedrado provisto de la luz o sombra que cada uno proyectamos.
Carl Jung nos regaló la frase: Uno no alcanza la iluminación fantaseando sobre la luz sino haciendo consciente de su propia oscuridad.
Cuántos en realidad somos realmente conscientes de nuestros pensamientos que desencadenan acciones, cuando muchas veces vamos por propulsión, y es esa energía que da fuerza la que busca un camino, una dirección, desde muy pequeños aprendemos las materias básicas y muchas veces no nos llenan de conocimiento sobre inteligencia emocional, la mente y las emociones van conectadas somos un ente completo, todo lo que pensamos genera una reacción propia que se llega a manifestar tarde o temprano hacia los demás y es lo que tenemos en nuestro tanque mental y emocional lo que nos hace crecer (evolucionar) o estancarnos.
Son los años los que nos regalan la experiencia a traves de dolor que nos hace crecer, por increíble que parezca es ahí de donde podemos surgir y crear un mejor y renovado yo.
Ver dentro de nosotros siempre es doloroso, recordar y analizar,tratar de mejorar y muchas veces no saber por dónde empezar, a cuantos nos ha pasado? A muchos diría yo.
Es ahí cuando estamos en el fondo acariciándonos el alma cuando sentimos que algo nos corroe el pensamiento que nos dejamos ir,sentir, llorar todo lo que sea necesario para poder dar otra vez la remontada.
Crear un propósito para salir muchas veces fue ver mi mano apoyarla sobre una superficie firme y levantarme por mi, luego volver hacia los demás, ya que cuando has abierto la cajita de pandora y has tocado todos los males solo queda aferrarse a la esperanza que se encontraba en la esquina izquierda de la caja esperando el momento adecuado de salir a flote y reparar todos los sueños que se desvanecen.
Sigue la misma pregunta ,
que me carcome la mente herida.
Quien cerrará la caja de Pandora?
... y en las noches el amor espera,
cerrar la caja de pandora.
Escrito por : Mabel Bendaña
Zulficar ali ahmed: migration from india to kuwait valuable journey .!
Family picture of zulfi during parents visit in kuwait
Zulficar, his story of moving to Kuwait and his perspective on migration. Anyone planning to make a move out of India can take something out of Zulfi’s story and StoriesFromOutOfIndia.
We at these blog are making an effort to help you in making an informed decision (through stories like these), if you are one of those who are looking to making that move.
Four years ago, a wiry bhilai boy decided to move to Kuwait for a fresh start. For, Today, he is back in the country he first set foot in, and made a life for himself.
When did you decide you wanted to move out of India?
I felt that I did not have much scope in India as I had lived a ‘party life’ in my teen years. Than working in navy but I had heard a lot of good things about abroad and thought it would give me a fresh start, which I did get. That was almost 04 years ago. At that time, Kuwait was not one of the places I wanted to move to, it just happened to be a place where my brother in law lived, so I thought, “Why not? Let’s give it a shot.”
How were the initial first years? Did you find the place welcoming, were you missing India or its chaos?
The initial first years almost 04 years ago, were very hard. It was a major culture shock, and I wanted to run back to India, to a place that I felt comfortable in. But I knew deep down, that this was a place that would be good for me eventually; so I stuck on.
First pic : Zulfi with brother in law
After working in navy , zulfi moved to kuwait .!
You done graduation from navy and then decided to work in Kuwait, wasn’t that hampering your stay in India?
Not at all; although Kuwait is a good place to live, it’s saving power in the way of money is very high So when I moved to Kuwait , the saving power was a lot more and after working there for 04 years The shift was not easy, as Kuwait offers a lot of luxury, but it’s a sacrifice one has to make and come back to reality in India
Was it an easy decision to move back to Kuwait?
Moving to Kuwait was different in its own way. It’s like living in Disneyland. Everything is fake—one makes a lot of money, drives fancy cars on very fancy roads, live in hotel that one can only dream of, eat over-priced foods and live in a very fancy cocooned world. One has to keep his/her eye on the prize and not lose focus. To me, it was a 5 to 10 years goal—make my money and leave and that’s why i am here . The money I saved in 04 years in Kuwait, I would never be able to save in 10 years in India on a regular job.
How would you rate the quality of life in Kuwait as opposed to India?
India has its own charm, but I am not fond of the corruption, the filth all around and small-minded thinking of some people. But there are things also that I love of the Indian culture—I love the feeling of genuine people around, some of the values that we were brought up with and the amount of government holidays that people get there [ha ha ha ha…]
Would you recommend Kuwait as a place to migrate to for those who are contemplating a move?
It’s hard for me to say that Kuwait is a better place to settle in, some folks love it others hate it. As for me, it’s part of my life now and I love it. I would definitely recommend Kuwait as an option to young graduate looking at starting a new life. It’s a struggle to settle in, in the beginning, but it keeps getting better.
What are the plus points of living in Kuwait ?
We have a free accommodation system, water electricity is free (although it is terrible), Kuwait provides a safe environment; I can feel safe walking around anytime. There is no discrimination of work,Kuwait has a great skyscraper and plenty of nature around; sea side views … it’s all of these that make Kuwait so beautiful.
Other than the lifestyle created by money, the weather plays a big factor when moving to Kuwait. Kuwait has extreme climate, while Kuwait has 2 seasons which is extreme in my opinion from extreme hot to extreme cold . The changing of the colours from one season to the next, to the kids enjoying the activities like cycling, rollerblading , skating to beautiful parks here in winter activities.
Living in Kuwait, gives one a different impression of life, something one could only dream of: high-end cars, fancy holidays, expensive watches, high-end restaurants, spending money without having to think twice. Coming back to India, reality hits back and one can never make the same kind of money as easily as one would make in Kuwait.
Zulficar : negative friends in the eye of zulfi
How do you tell if a friend is fake or not? It’s not easy because nobody is just good or bad. We all got good sides and bad sides.
But in some people or relationships, the bad sides take over. And that’s when you got a fake friend.
I’m old enough to know what I value in friendships. I haven’t been that lucky with that. From my past experiences I’ve learned what I don’t like in a friend.!
The most important thing is honesty. A person who pretends to be my friend and then find someone else has no place in my life : Zulfi .
You can spot a fake person a mile away. It’s a bit exaggerated but close. I think you learn to see the fake ones, the more experience you get from them. First you see them as a possible friend but discover later that they’re just pretending to like you. They can already be your friend but still stab you in the back.
Zulficar says : I’m much stronger person because of these bad experiences. I would never let people treat me that way again. I’m so used to be alone so friends only feel like a hindrance. If I take part in events or studying, I never even try to become friends with others. I rather meet people, talk to them possibly but that’s about it. I don’t want to get stuck in a rut. I’m my best friend. I know everything about me and trust myself. Maybe I’m lying to myself that I can be happy alone but at least I don’t get hurt my other people’s lies. Some might think this kind of approach is not healthy but it works for me.
So below i enlisted some of the points ,which i learn ,how to recognize fake freind from real one .
Pay attention to how much they talk about themselves
How interested are they in you?
What type of people do they hang out with?
Do they apologize and owe their mistakes up to you?
Do they lie to you or others?
How do they make you feel about yourself?
Are they critical of your achievements?
Do they understand your limitations?
Do they respect your boundaries?
How do they react when you tell them something you’re proud or happy about?
Do they stand up for you?
Do they help you out when you need it?
Do they act differently when around others?
Do they talk bad about you behind your back?
Do they seem happy to see you?
Can you be yourself around them?
Can you trust them to keep a secret?
Are they taking advantage of your generosity?
Do they pressure you to do things you don’t want to do?
When you end the friendship, do they go nuclear?
If This points happen End the friendship if you’ve gone past the point of no return.: Zulficar